Like I mentioned in our "catching up" post. Abrial just turned 12 in December and mother nature wasted no time letting us know.
I had my suspisions that the time was coming. She sprouted up like a weed, she started having to wear training bras or I should say the cami's with the built in bras, and she was sleeping a lot. Once a month or so she would say her tummy hurt and she slept right when she got home from school up until dinner time. Then one month after turning 12 the flood broke through.
Luckily, I had been talking to her about this little visit for months prior to it happening. That first talk was hilarious. I began by explaining how her body was going through some changes and explained what exactly was about to happen sometime soon. Her exact words were, "Ewww. That's disgusting!"
I just agreed then I had to leave the room because I was about to bust out laughing.
The school also had just showed their growing girls video and her teacher had talked to her about it as well.
So thankfully between me, her teacher, and the video Abrial was pretty well ready for it. Still, nothing prepared me for that change.
January hit and I still have to get the shower ready for Abrial and wash her hair because she just doesn't get it done right. So one night I walked in there and Abrial was getting in the shower and turns to me and says, "Oh yeah. I started."
No big deal. No crying. No freaking out. Just a "Hey mom. I started. Just letting you know." I was floored. Abrial is not good with change at all especially with anything dealing with her body but this was such an easy thing for her to accept. I'm thinking it's because of all the talking and preparing her for it that helped.
I, on the other hand, walked out of the bathroom and bawled like a baby. As much as I had talked to her about it I wasn't as prepared as I thought I would be. What mom is really? I mean my baby girl is transitioning into a young woman. I didn't like it at all.
The pre-teen years have definitely begun in our house.
If I can offer any advice for moms who are about to be in the same position it's TALK. Talk to your daughter as soon as you suspect the time may be coming. Talk at least once or twice a month about it. Encourage their teachers to do the same that way they aren't freaked out when/if it happens at school. Make sure to pack pads in their backpack as a 'just in case' and make sure they are as prepared as they can possibly be. I'm telling you that has to be why it was so easy for Abrial to accept it because she doesn't accept much that well.
Good luck and thanks for reading!
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